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user-inactivated  ·  4144 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What's the one regret you can't work through?

I made one really stupid mistake in college that sticks out. It left me with a misdemeanor that was since expunged from my record, but the news story can still be found pretty easily - it sucks to have to explain when I'm going through job interviews. I hate myself for that one.

Another more recent regret is that I didn't work harder in a lot of different ways in my relationship that ended a couple weeks ago. It's hard not to dwell on the thought that if I had just done this or that, the relationship could've lasted a lot longer - if not for the rest of my life. That feeling of emptiness in the gut after a breakup is such a shitty thing to feel on a daily basis. I know it'll go away eventually but I'll be damned if it doesn't hurt like hell right now.

Thanks for asking this though :) It feels good to let it out.





kimberly  ·  4144 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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user-inactivated  ·  4144 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wish so badly that there was something I could tell you to make you feel better. Relationships are hard and complex, and it's impossible for anyone outside of it to be able to understand all the complexities in a relationship. I'm still hurting, but I feel better and better every day. Breaking up always seems like the worst possible thing that can happen, but once you're outside of it and you have a little time to breathe, you can definitely see things a little more clearly (or at least differently).

hiss  ·  4144 days ago  ·  link  ·  

re: the relationship, did you or the other person end it?

user-inactivated  ·  4144 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She did. I couldn't accept it at first but it does make sense to me now. We were still having lots of really, really great times together, but we also began arguing more. Luckily, she's a really cool lady and we're still friends, and she understands me pretty well and knows the emotional situation I'm in, so she's been there for me to talk to a couple times since we've been apart. That's helped me quite a bit.