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user-inactivated  ·  4223 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The F**k-It List

So desperately glad I will never live not on my own terms ever again





lil  ·  4223 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Would you agree that it takes quite a bit of time to figure out what your own terms are?

user-inactivated  ·  4222 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah -- just about the right amount of time I think (knowing your perspective as a mother, haha)

lil  ·  4221 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Flaggy - you have no idea what my perspective as a mother is. I don't think I've talked that much about it. (or have I?) too painful. I don't even know if I have a perspective anymore. I'm torn between:

1. You can't overprotect too much; and

2. Throw the brat into the deep end; if she can't swim too f'ing bad. (I don't mean that.) (Wish I did.)

It's great to have a mother, hell to be one.

Living on your own terms means being willing to be totally independent if necessary.

hold on let go hold on let go hold on let go hold on let go... todays writing prompt?

user-inactivated  ·  4220 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sorry -- I should have said, "I know that you are a mother and thus might/will have a completely different perspective than I (as a son) have.

That said, your post is very bitter. Hope everything's okay.

As a writing prompt, I like it, or even better as a podcast, because I think it deserves a longer treatment.

lil  ·  4220 days ago  ·  link  ·  

yes, that would be clearer. I over-reacted.

    Hope everything's okay.
It's all part of the journey.
forwardslash  ·  4220 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I agree wholeheartedly with you there. I even did the boomerang thing: moved out with friends, they moved out and the roommates from hell moved in, moved back in with my parents, then finally moved out with wife.