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thenewgreen  ·  4323 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What does being in love feel like to you?

I can completely understand where you are coming from. How can you have ever been in love if it's so easily discarded? I'll be honest, I love my wife very much but I don't think I knew what the purest form of love was until I became a father. When I wrote about love here in this thread it was regarding my love for my daughter. You'll find someone that loves you though and it will be the kind of love where you know it's gonna last, where you know the two of you will share a life, build something together and someday be able to look back at it and go, "we did a damned good job". -You're a cool guy, it will happen. if you want it to





theadvancedapes  ·  4323 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ya, basically my feelings are coming from your first sentence. Both of the long-term serious relationships I've had, ended with them leaving me quite easily. I can imagine having a child is a different type of love, and I can also imagine that having a child will create a bond between you and your partner that will make you stronger and able to raise a good family. I really didn't want to be the downer on this post - but I thought I'd share my thoughts on it for a different perspective. Obviously these thoughts could be conditional on my emotional place right now.

thenewgreen  ·  4323 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I really didn't want to be the downer on this post - but I thought I'd share my thoughts on it for a different perspective. Obviously these thoughts could be conditional on my emotional place right now.
You're not being a downer. Most of us have been in a similar situation. It's no fun and it definitely shakes your confidence in "love". You'll jump back in to the saddle and fall in love again, we advanced apes need love. It's a biological imperative.
theadvancedapes  ·  4323 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sure you're right :)