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mk  ·  4817 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Message To Women From A Man: You Are Not “Crazy”
Wow. I am going to be more conscious of this. It is a technique that undercuts someone's position in a manner that dismisses their validity. One thing that I am making an effort to do, is to topically address disagreements, discussions, etc. Emotions are good and necessary, but if they take you off topic, a destructive situation ensues. Thanks for pointing this article out.

That said, sometimes I do get in trouble for focusing solely on the topic at hand, and not the feelings underneath. I honestly think that men are worse (in general) at picking up on emotional communication, and this can lead to misunderstandings that result in gaslighting.

Interesting.