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comment by tla

I don't have it out for you. You're not blocked, muted, filtered or hushed. I just can't trust you, but since I haven't blocked you, I don't act on this lack of trust because of social pressure (aka zomgcensorship!!1!!11!!!!eleventy!!!).

Ok see the thing is, I'm a woman on The Internet. (The following isn't exclusive to gender, as eightbitsamurai has pointed out about a million times in the past. It's just relevant to my experience.)

The overwhelmingly common assertions are that I should stop being on The Internet if I don't like it when someone threatens my actual existence.

If you flip out and I get threatened by you, the consensus is that it's my fault for participating in The Internet.

Therefore, I am responsible for what other people do to me.

Even if I wanted to put protections in place but was convinced to not.

The only acceptable protection I am allowed, is to never participate in The Internet.

This is what it's like to be on The Internet for some people. I don't make the rules. I just break them.