A lot of people would probably see those comments as racist or misogynist -- Your two statements generalize about a whole group of people you don't know. Statements like "I don't trust women" would probably be hurtful to a woman who wants to be trusted by you. You are probably feeling a little hurt by H's statement because you are white and want to be trusted by him. Your question to me was "wouldn't you think that's racist?" My answer is "no" - I'd think you have been hurt by black people or women or white people or whatever and to protect yourself you have decided to stop trusting anyone with any similar characteristics. I often say "I don't like (visual) art." On the one hand, art doesn't speak to me as much as words or music do. Also I was married to a visual artist once and he somewhat ruined art for me. If you were an artist, would you be hurt? Why? You have choices too. You can label H. "racist" and think that your comment is weighty and judgemental and righteous and correct. Or you can maybe say, "It sounds like you're hurting and had a shit-load of crappy experiences perpetrated by white people. it's probably wise to be cautious."
We're talking in a thread about emotional scars, so I assume he's hurting. At the same time I also think he's being racist because, well, that's what it is. Like I said in another comment, I wasn't trying to attack him personally. For the record, I'm Italian. Our "whiteness" is still a matter of debate. When I think of white people, my mind goes to Germany, Norway, etc. I don't feel white and I don't feel hurt by humanodon's statement."You can label humanodon racist" or you can say "it sounds like you're hurting..."