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crafty  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Muting in personal life

I used to work with a guy who was ideologically very dissimilar from me. He was (probably still is, I'd imagine) very conservative, christian, Pax-Americana neoconservative foreign policy, Glenn Beck, the whole nine-yards, and always eminently distrustful of anything liberal, left or democratic. We were on a two-person team, as product photographers for a small company, which meant that we often spent long periods of time in close proximity. I think some people probably would have loved a real life mute button for him, but to be honest I really didn't mind. Granted, sometimes when one of us wasn't really edging for a discussion, what the other person was saying would kind of go in one ear and out the other, but on the whole, I generally grew to enjoy talking with him. As the more issues we discussed, sometimes heatedly, we were able to identify points of common ground, albeit few and far between, and even times when we were unable to find agreement, sometimes his perspective would offer new ways of looking at things. It was difficult at times, because I would often find his ideas offensive at first blush, but being able to get past that is an important life skill. Having thin skin or a hard head can really hurt your ability to grow intellectually.





havires  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

With the fact that there are people out there (in this site) who feel it's their job to make you feel unwelcome, I'd point out people here, but frankly I know when to pick my battles, you can't have discussions like this with someone. Unless you sent them a pm, and like I read TNG say somewhere, if it's a discussion that can transisition from PM to open posting somewhere, go for it. (OK OK I paraphrased him a bit but still).

crafty  ·  3788 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    With the fact that there are people out there (in this site) who feel it's their job to make you feel unwelcome, I'd point out people here, but frankly I know when to pick my battles, you can't have discussions like this with someone.

I guess I'm not familiar with the specifics of what transpired so I can't really say if I think your justified in that, but I agree, there are plenty of trolls and assholes who deserve to be marginalized in an online discussion forum. However, with as much as the mute tool can help improve the quality of discussion, it can also hurt just as much if it's misused. I suppose if you have an opinion that the (currently) small insular group of power users here find unwelcoming, you're essentially shunned on most posts. I'm sure if/when the site grows, other groups of power users will develop, probably of different ideological persuasions, and I don't know how people will use or abuse the mute feature, but I suspect more drama pimples will occur from it.

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havires  ·  3787 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you once on M for that.