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comment by PeterC
PeterC  ·  3936 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: What Made You Know the Relationship Was Over?

Relationships are so strange. So fucking strange. It was over for me when I realized I didn't want to change - really, I couldn't change - to make her happy. It was making me unhappy, and no one can live like that.

Through the breakup it was really hard to feel things. We'd been together a while and cared about each other, but I think in order to follow through I think I had to separate myself from what she was feeling.

Unfortunately, that stuff is the kind of thoughts that play through your mind at night, in the shower, on long car rides, yardwork, class, all the time. So although I realized the relationship was over more than half a year ago, I'm also realizing every day. Which is shitty.