I understand where you are coming from. I am going to tell my own daughter to be safe, and I don't think that excuses any behavior. That said, there is a context, particularly online, where rape has become some sort of debatable issue, as if it is multifaceted. I believe the author is saying that telling girls to be safe validates that delusion. IMHO the author makes a valid point for the context in which it will be read. But if you are damn sure that rape is just a perpetrator and a victim, then telling someone how to be cautious can be just that. Unfortunately, this might be wishful thinking.There was an unspoken sense of community between us all. You will be safe when you’re here because you’re important to us, you’re worthy of protection.