I am trying to imagine myself doing what you just said but it is just physically not possible.
She is moving away in 3 months. Into another city that is 2 hours away by train and I am stuck in my PhD for at least another two years. There is no possibility for me to be there for the child all the time, which means that it will occupy every weekend I have if I want to be a good dad.
What I don't like about the situation is that she chooses to force me into this situation. Knowing fully and well that we had other plans.