Share good ideas and conversation.   Login, Join Us, or Take a Tour!
someguyfromcanada  ·  465 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: March 15, 2017

The levee is about to break and the potential for catastrophe is fairly high.

Today I invoked my Power of Attorney for Property over my mother, who has advanced Alzheimer's disease, and she will not find out until Tuesday when we meet with her banker. It was a group decision with my siblings and her siblings. She is going to be furious, as is her default reaction now whenever she does not get her way. My mother is very smart and the kindest person I have ever met and she now only knows illogical rage.

Alzheimers is not just a memory disease as I thought it was. The most disturbing part is that it changes one's personality. She was a special education teacher and she now calls anyone that disagrees with her stupid. She has never used that word in her life and that is not who she is. I come from a multi-racial family and today she said my sister was a thief because that is how all Chinese people are. Followed that up with saying my sister is not her daughter because she did not give birth to her. My jaw literally fucking dropped. That is so far away from who she really is.

I am not sure how her current situation can be sustainable for much longer. I may have to invoke the Power of Attorney for Personal Care. AKA the nuclear option. The alternatives are either getting her 24/7 in-home help or selling her home and moving her into a place with full-time caregivers (that will accept a dog). She will be violently opposed to either. Ugh.

I am absolutely lost and do not see any possible positive outcome. I hope none of you are ever put in this lose-lose position.