A note in support of humanodon to all who might come this way thenewgreen --

Let's do a mini-meta-analysis of this post.

The question is "What has left a[n] emotional scar on you."

(and most of us are, like, I'm not going to go there. Too painful. We're talking about a flipping emotional scar... something happened and it still hurts. It still hurts, those things that happened. Like a physical scar, it's not that noticeable anymore mostly, after all the years, but the pain is still all over the place and seeps outside of my control sometimes, less and less all the time, but whoa...)

So humanodon, who I've met in person is the nicest guy.

But he starts to look at something that happened once (or daily, for that matter) and all he can say is the outcome -- the part of the scar that he is aware of... he realizes that he doesn't trust white people.

There are exceptions all over the place, I'm sure, but he has to cognitively work at trusting white people and be aware of how his gut white-person reaction might affect him.

You don't have to agree with me Grendel but I don't see that statement as racist. I see it as a personal expression of emotional scarring and eightbitsamurai recognized it too.

White people: some non-white people may never really trust you. It's not about you. It's about them trying to protect themselves. And then again, white people, you might have all kinds of not white best friends who would take a bullet for you or marry you.

My step-father (of blessed memory) was a very successful person in many areas of business, law, finance, etc. He couldn't trust non-Jews. He had many best friends of all religions and ethnicity, but he knew in his core that he could only really trust Jews. In fact he didn't much trust anyone in the world except my mother.

My non-Jewish boyfriend at the time resented that deeply, took it personally, felt left out.... of course he would. But it wasn't about him.

We all define trust in different ways, and there are levels of trust. I would think every single person with an emotional scar of some sort has also experienced a deep loss of trust.

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