Look, man. I'm a IT guy with three hard science hobbies. If I was born in the '80's I'd have been doped all up on Ritalin and most likely properly diagnosed. Autism is not a bad thing. It is not a good thing. It is a word used to described the way some human brains, mostly male, interact with the world. I realize that there is a whole "OMG AUTISM" thing out in the real world where this is treated almost like a disability, and in the extreme cases where people need therapy and medication it is. There is an old joke from the Pre-web Usenet days when the word first started gaining traction. What do you call a 30 year old man with autism? Engineer.Once again, I'm bothered by the usage of the word "autism" in this context.
So, it's okay for you to use the word "nigga" because you're a nigga? Or did I misunderstand you explaining your three hobbies? What you just did is diminish the value of the word by using it in a context that was designed to be diminishing. By using it to describe someone who's not autistic, you're making it just another swear word - because clearly, there's very little positive attitude attached to it outside of medical context. It doesn't belong in that puddle - and that's my problem with it.