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user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How do you convince a completely miserable person that the world isn't such a terrible place?  ·  

Of course! I guess it's a large combination of things though, definitely not one thing.

I wake up each morning with a strong urge to.. I dunno. Get things done. I wake up and the first thing on my mind is "There's work to do". Be it go to the gym, play all my various sports, actually go to my job, go be social etc. I think it's all of my interests rolled in together. I have so many things I enjoy doing, and that would likely be why I would fail at convincing this person out of his belief; we're just too dissimilar, I don't have the experience he does and I can only use examples from my own, very positive life.

Today for example, I woke up, went to the gym and busted through my routine. Came home, had some breakfast and a protein shake. Had a shower and washed my hair cause I'm getting a haircut after work and I know it'll make the job easier for them. Head down to work, listening to my "strut" playlist (these are all songs I feel good listening to). I get to work, do my thing, converse with people, get a little shitty at times, and then eventually it's the end of the day and it's Friday here so yay! I went out to get my haircut down the street, then joined up with the workmates for a Friday beer. After that I came home, organized dinner and then checked Hubski and saw your fascinating post. Now I've had dinner, am looking at some art I've been working on thinking I really need to finish that before I see my brother in November. And I'm also setting up a date tomorrow with a friend, going to the SPCA to play with the kitties.

Outside of that; I'll organize my music and find some new artists, maybe watch a movie if something cool is available (I go alone most of the time, it's easier for me to get immersed that way), practice for rugby, go see my friends elsewhere in the city. If the weather is crap I'll jump on some games on Steam and shoot things, cruise Hubski and see what Reddit has to offer. Work on art some and get new ideas. Read! Reading is a great escape for me, I'm going through the Wheel of Time and also all of Brandon Sanderson's works and I truly get lost for hours.

If my city isn't really doing it for me, I can go for a drive. 3 hours away is Queenstown http://imgur.com/gallery/czFv5Dy , where I used to live and just a truly stunning place to be; alone or with friends. New Zealand is a truly small place, everything is so local and at hand (despite being an Island).

Sorry this is truly rambling, I guess I just wanted to convey somehow that it's so many things that I live for. All these little things come together and get me out of bed, I love doing everything and I have so many things to keep me occupied that in the odd weekend where I have nothing to do, I'll feel fine about sleeping till noon.

I try and be appreciative for everything I have, and posts like yours bring to the forefront how good life is for me - so thank you for that at the very least!





user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You're welcome. I'm not often thanked for asking questions, I must admit.

I'd like you to take part in a thought experiment now; I think you might find it peculiar. Imagine yourself in a less than pleasant place in life. You know yourself; what would the current you say to the different, less-than-happy you? How would you cheer this person up and get them up to current-you's speed?

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user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Holy shit, man. This is amazing. The care, the respect and the conviction you put into your less fortunate self is inspiring and is awesome to listen to. Thank you for sharing this.

May I ask what "Takina te hoe kia Rite" means? I wasn't able to google its meaning - only its translation, and it's vague.

user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you for the kind words, I just hope I did the question justice, you've been making me think quite a bit!

Ah it's a Maori motto, at my old College - it means "Wield the paddle together". You're never alone, we row the boat as one etc. Family is very important in my culture.

user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I see. Thank you for the explanation.

briandmyers  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

user-inactivated  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hahaha yus!

This will always be my go too Kiwi beat though...

briandmyers  ·  3135 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Choice