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tehstone  ·  3534 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Words and their use in USA

Too many people are not smart enough or don't care enough to consider the subtext of what is said. This leads to a country in which the words you use are more important than the meaning behind the words.

For example: Several years back I had a coworker who was verbally abusive. He was a pro at making everyone around him feel insecure and unimportant. But he was very careful with his word choice and complaints to HR were ignored. One day I had had enough of his bullshit and responded to him with, "Oh fuck off." I was written up. Now in the context of the situation, whatever it was that he said to me to trigger such a reaction was worse, and other coworkers of mine would back that up. But to the HR person, my choice of the word "fuck" trumped whatever else was going on in the situation.

Oh, and a good number of people in the US seem to take pleasure in being offended by things. Even when something shouldn't be offensive to them, they will take it as a personal attack.





user-inactivated  ·  3533 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Oh, and a good number of people in the US seem to take pleasure in being offended by things. Even when something shouldn't be offensive to them, they will take it as a personal attack.

Too good a life? I don't hear people being offended much when they have shit to worry about, like not losing one's job or risk being evicted for not paying in time.

Have you tried explaining the situation to the HR personnel? Are they this dumb in reality? It's hard to believe.

tehstone  ·  3533 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Too good a life? I don't hear people being offended much when they have shit to worry about, like not losing one's job or risk being evicted for not paying in time.

I don't think that's entirely it though, but I don't have much to back that up.

    Have you tried explaining the situation to the HR personnel? Are they this dumb in reality? It's hard to believe.

Oh yeah, I explained inside and out what was going on and tried explaining the context in which I was upset enough to say what I said (Not to mention I was working in a kitchen, where even my boss would use that kind of language regularly). But to HR, all that mattered was that I had told someone to fuck off and that person had come to them about it.

user-inactivated  ·  3533 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    But to HR, all that mattered was that I had told someone to fuck off and that person had come to them about it.

This is ridiculous. What the hell they think is their job? I don't understand these people.

tehstone  ·  3533 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's what you get when you work for a Fortune 500 hotel company I guess. The rules make less sense the bigger the company gets. Fortunately it's no longer my full time job and the new job is much better.

user-inactivated  ·  3533 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm glad for you. Nobody deserves such a treatment.