I've been thinking about tng being so mad for love that he'd do all that -- as I watch my daughter hopelessly in love with bad news, and paying for it with my money. I've also come to realize why my blog "Should I lend my boyfriend money?" gets 10 hits a day from all over the world. Girls find a guy who gives them self-esteem and self-worth and the illusion of purpose and love and meaning in their lives, but the girl has some steady shit job and the guy has dreams and ideas. I'm touching this very lightly here -- but I intend to do a part 2 to that blog someday.... listing all the money I've spent on ... well you get the picture. Your explanation of - set-the-house-on-fire-boy-craziness is a version of the same thing from the boy's point of view. There ain't no cure for love and you can't reason a person out of a position they didn't reason themselves into in the first place.