I believe the phrase is, "A dick is worth a thousand words."
One kind of life-alienating communication is the use of moralistic judgments that imply wrongness or badness on the part of people who don’t act in harmony with our values. Such judgments are reflected in language: “The problem with you is that you’re too selfish.” “She’s lazy.” “They’re prejudiced.” “It’s inappropriate.” Blame, insults, put-downs, labels, criticism, comparisons, and diagnoses are all forms of judgment.
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values.
It is important here not to confuse value judgments and moralistic judgments. All of us make value judgments as to the qualities we value in life; for example, we might value honesty, freedom, or peace. Value judgments reflect our beliefs of how life can best be served.
- Marshall Rosenberg
Other than that, welcome back?
I promise, the need for belonging won't be fulfill by opening with a judgement. Analyses as evidence are just as vindictive as the statement.
But, if you must indulge, feel free to ignore this comment entirely.