No, I am in the right; the incident I'm talking about occurred over a year ago, so I can report back on how I've done at work since then, whether I have a reputation that's damaged my perception at work or not.

And the fact is I got glowing feedback from my peers and an above average rating and so on and so forth.

I know what I did was the right thing because it didn't happen yesterday. I know what I did was the right thing for a lot of other reasons, too. I know I wasn't the only one who felt uncomfortable and I know that other people conveyed similar concerns as I did separately of me. Is that enough for you? How about the past year where I've been in a management capacity over this employee and I have worked to develop that relationship past that rebuke, successfully? Yes, there are boundaries between me and the employee now that weren't there the first few times we interacted. I consider that a good thing; she offered me a muscle relaxer the first time I met her in person, at a work conference. Boundaries needed to be established. The employee repeatedly was over the line and inappropriate. I was thanked by other coworkers for speaking up.

In the past six months three people have told me that they want to work with me as their manager. Unprompted, not that it matters, because if you don't want to, you're not going to believe that anyway.

Was that enough context for you to believe me?

I'm fucking good at my job; I'm good enough with people; I certainly know when someone's behavior is over the line and I don't escalate an issue, business or personal, unless it's categorically warranted. You don't have to believe me - but I'd like it if you'd stop declaring me the utter opposite just because it makes you feel subversive to answer questions by stating the question isn't a problem, the asker is.