I disagree, to an extent about the choices and tastes aspect of this. The choices and tastes of a person are a defining part of their identify. I do not believe, for instance, that the person shooting guns and listening to pop country and the person sitting in a coffee shop listening to Sam Beam are romantically compatible people. Therefore, how a person defines themselves directly relates to the pool of people available to them for identity buttressing. If I'm aware of my identity, and therefore aware of the scope of the previous sentence, is that not a good way to temper expectations?
Like I said, void was due to a lack of other words to use, I don't feel much of a void right now. But I also have no interest in love or being close to anybody.