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lil  ·  3741 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why She Slept With You: The Unapologetic Cheater

    What are appropriate interpersonal boundaries when it comes to communication and relationships?
It's too idiosyncratic a question. Every relationship is different. Make the question more specific, like this:

What would you want to know about a person you are considering for friendship (romantic or otherwise):

  1.  Jail terms?
  2.  Awards and recognitions?
  3.  Nude photos on line?
  4.  Psychiatric interventions?
  5.  Past addictions?
  6.  Debts?
  7.  Lineage?
  8.  Previous Addresses?
  9.  Surgery?
I met some new people new year's eve. The topic of past lives came up -- not in the reincarnated sense. This question was asked: Have you had a previous time in your life that was VASTLY different from your current life. Everybody said yes. They asked me that question and I mentioned that I had had a brief career as an aerial photographer (long ago, in a province far away). Another fellow had been in the military. There were others with wildly diverging previous lives.

It takes a long time for the whole story to emerge unless you are writing a biography of the person or asking targeted questions.

Of course, some information may seem more "intimate" or "personal" than other information. Get it all down - before the memory goes.