uh actually I did receive an arrogant bastard beer glass from a very close friend...SO...we're in very similar boats haha This is the first time I'm hearing this directly in a work environment, although I have had suspicions that others found me standoffish at other jobs in the past. So now that I'm aware of it, I'm taking steps to move beyond it. i also posted this on r/2x just to hear from other women because I was concerned it was a sexism thing (women that are quiet are aloof snobs but quiet men are mysterious and brooding). I'm seeing that it's a little of both. I'm going to write to my direct boss tomorrow when I've cooled down to see if I can't triangulate this information, especially since she and I are very similar. I'm hoping she has more insights for me. thanks for taking the time to respond and come back to DC soon!