Yeah, I kicked them both out. Honestly her betrayal was worse than his; she and I had been friends for nearly 20 years whereas he and I had known each other for months. He didn't know the depth of my relationship with her either.

Unfortunately, because this woman is mentally unbalanced, she doesn't understand why I refuse to talk to both of them. She thinks I should talk to her since I no longer talk to him. That because I "hate him" now, I should be okay with her - as if only one person is to blame for that situation, or as if I shouldn't be mad any more because I'm no longer seeing him.

I really hate to moderate unless I have to. I may not like users but worst case I end up hushing them usually. (Hush count: 4) I think it's justified in the case where I know a user pushes my buttons so bad that I don't feel I can interact with them positively in any way, and for me to reach that kind of conclusion it has to be an extended negative pattern. I try for civility.

We have gone round about. That's fine. I believe strongly in my own views but I also recognize that I can't expect everyone to agree with them. I don't think that everyone values my opinion.