- Looks can be deceiving - Don't judge a book by its cover - and other platitudes, with your host, _refugee_ I agree with redsox44344. Remember all the things that got you to the point where you stopped speaking. I happen to be remarkably good at letting go of the past - I don't like revisting old significant others, at least. What's done is done and is done for a reason. (There! Another platitude for you!) What's more, I find even if you do try again with a given person, it is never as good as the first time around. You just get tired old iterations of the same problems popping up again sooner, or new, more interesting problems like insecurity or jealousy that arise as a result of the failure of the last iteration. I would remind yourself of the bad things. Hell, I would say focus on the bad things about the relationship. What about her annoyed you? (If "nothing," that's probably a problem all on its own.) Remember, as b_b said, that religious-crazy is among the worst kinds of crazy. Not only does it come with all the problems he mentioned, but religious-crazy is one of those kinds of crazy that doesn't encourage an eventual cure. - if this is not clear, what I mean is, "someone with, say, depression or bi-polar disorder, hopefully eventually they will seek help to realign their viewpoint with a level of normalcy. someone who is religious-crazy is convinced of their own righteousness." Moreover, man, plenty of fish in the sea. SO MANY fish in the sea, in fact. Don't you want to try some fun new experiments instead of going back to a dish you already tasted? Not trying to be vulgar here, just metaphorical. If you had a feast in front of you would you stick to the same thing you ate for a few months three or more years ago and enjoyed at the time? Or would you say "to hell with it" and try all the other dishes out there? I mean, you're never going to know how bland rice tastes until you try the jerk chicken. Or something.she looks and sounds like an angel