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_refugee_  ·  4029 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, let's talk mistakes.

It's okay ;)

You have a lot in front of you, young not-named-Pablo. The friends you have in high school often turn out not to be your lifelong friends. Sometimes, they do - but real life tends to start happening to people in college, and by real life I don't mean that what you're doing right now is real - I mean "the unfortunate, shitty stuff." One friend's dad unexpectedly died. I had another friend who got pregnant and dropped out. My brother got kicked out of college two or three times. My grandfather died; another friend had several family members die. Plus relationships start being - well, more real. You have those life experiences that really make you take a stand on things, whereas in high school I mostly had theoretical opinions. "Abortion should be legal, because you should have that choice, but I hope to never have one." (That was me.) Now it's: "Abortion should be legal, because if it wasn't, I'd be in hell."

Edit: And those real-life experiences are the ones that tend to schism or draw together groups of people, that's where I was going with that. I mentioned I think my high school friends were scandalized by the abortion...but what were my other options, really? When shit happens you have to deal with it.

I am not in any way trying to discount what you are learning now, both in school and socially. There is just a lot ahead of you as well and it doesn't get easier.