A dear friend of mine who often takes things far too seriously told me it was of utmost importance I determine "what I want" out of dating/relationships because otherwise "it wasn't fair." I pointed out that I didn't think dating was fair in the first place. I don't think it really can be. Moreover, I don't think 'fair' is necessarily the best choice in all cases.

He then proceeded to tell me I needed to take an "honest inventory" of myself to determine what my flaws and strengths were, and this would somehow tell me what I would want in a relationship.

(I asked him if this was a 12-step program and that he knew I didn't believe in God. I was feeling witty.) Anyway, that's part of what brought this all up. Don't know what I want from 'romance.' What I've been doing hasn't really been bothering me though so I figured I'd just keep it up. -- aka, casual dating with no real end or commitment in sight.

Gets messy sometimes though. Am going to draw back from some of it to get more me time, hopefully.

Oh, and less drinking.