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nil  ·  37 minutes ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 26, 2020

It stems from people not wanting to be rude, basically. I had the same thing happen to me with some girl I had a crush on in high school. I kept asking her to hang out, she'd say yes awkwardly but it would never go anywhere. Then I got rejected. But it wasn't me, she "wasn't ready for a relationship."

It's very difficult to understand until you're on the receiving end of it. Have you ever blown anyone off that wanted to hang? Sometimes for months? It's very hard to say "I don't want to, sorry."

I do agree with you but being outright with people is a fucking skill. Took me a while to get there. But it kind of makes you sound and feel like an asshole.

nil  ·  1 hour ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 26, 2020

    I've asked the same girl out to go places 4 times in January, and flat out asked her on a date post-Valentines day. Every single time life keeps getting in the way. I keep hearing 'yes', or a possible reschedule, then life falls through: a car issue, overslept on a nap, family is in town (again), and a family emergency to boot. Roughly in that order. I'm amazed I've been so damn persistent despite all this, going off of 'yes' for a month only for circumstances to flop. I swear getting ghosted is easier so I can just moved on without thinking about "what-ifs".

With all do respect Mr. Kantos. I don't know you, I don't know your particular situation, but I believe that means no.

I had a conversation with someone recently where they mentioned that exact same thing, life getting in the way. My point was "if x friend told me they were playing a show and I was sick and dying I would break out of the hospital and hop in the moshpit."

People make time for what they truly want to make time for.

nil  ·  5 hours ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

    If you pay them $50/month to be able to come in during off hours once in a while and turn it up, they will be STOKED. (Once they confirm you aren't a meth head, and won't steal their equipment.)

    So do that. Go find those guys.

Beautiful. That's exactly the kind of real life advice I was looking for.

Thanks again goobs.

nil  ·  5 hours ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: February 26, 2020

    Why are they paying a child all this money, anyway?!

Oh my sweet summer child.

Wait until you're a kid making thrice that WITH kids.

nil  ·  1 day ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: You’re Likely to Get the Coronavirus

time off work sounds pretty good rn

nil  ·  1 day ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

    All through my teenage years we did the usual rural stuff - lighting stuff on fire, drinking and smoking, having sex at 14, hooning around the farms in paddock-bashers. Regular fucking idiots.

Say word.

I used to say I did something that could have gotten me arrested on a daily basis and something that could have gotten me killed on a weekly basis. But even then it was mostly constructive rebellion. There was an all-pervasive angst growing up but most of it came from a feeling of powerlessness. I had no idea how easy it would have been to actually get out. Hard but easy, because everyone around you talks about it like it's the dragon of chaos or some shit.

I had a 22 y/o brother that lived with me and tried to make my life a living hell. Cuz I was like 15 and accidentally had a marijuana reefer bong toke or something. Who gives a rip? I was the most educated in my family but clearly the most resented.

Playing music, trying to raise money for x and y cause. My drugs of choice were a lot of psychedelics and weed. So there wasn't a penchant for violence I guess. Fridge racing sounds funny af. Other people had it pretty rough though. We used to drive around the mall screaming dolphin noises at pedestrians.

    One friend turns 31 this year, lives with his parents and refuses to get his license or a job. I'm not quite giving up on him, but boy we've run out of ideas.

Could be a genuine mental health thing. Some downward cycle shit. Have the parents tried any tough love? Prozac? Maybe even Ritalin (but that's risky). My parents wouldn't let me fail. I used to think getting a job was hard - let me tell you kids - when you haven't eaten all day and you're sliding into some girl's DM's just because they might have sway on a hiring manager and you know if you don't come out with six fiddy by the end of the month you'll be freezing to death or giving your former boss "favours" ya tend to figure it out pretty quick. Also living with your parents can wreck your self-esteem because you're denied fundamental political rights.

Aaahh the service industry. That's what I call L-I-V-I-N. Seriously though, thanks for the moral support. Claiming my constitutional rights has been the greatest thrill of my adult life and I'm excited to be a part of it.

nil  ·  1 day ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

What would you recommend for practice space? Only reason I mentioned storage is I need to get my amp to 11. It's hard in student rentals or a condo with roommates or whatever borderline human rights violation I'm currently living in.

nil  ·  1 day ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

Yeah, I never bought that crap about artists dying young either. It only makes sense if it only happens to people who are genuinely legendary as fuck. People of varying quality tend to die. Average people tend to die.

For every Stephen King there's 1000 more who are just alcoholics. BUT (and this is an edit) I respect the hustle.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

Excellent. I'll call Bernie, he can get us financial support. It'll take a crew of people to move that but hopefully it'll fit in my 10'x10'.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

No yeah, that's definitely fax. Maybe competition isn't the right word. Values for sure.

Key thing about art friends is actually doing shit and not dropping out of society. My art friends do shit. We always did shit. We were on tour at like 16 and whatnot getting bread but then academics became a priority. The capacity to have a sense of humour I suppose.

Cause there's always that d00d in the art scene getting blitzed and getting in a bar fight with security after going on a racist rant. I worked at an art collective and they'd trash the place. That's how you stick it to the man. Destroy communal property that was donated. At least I played "Castles Made of Sand" to an audience of 3 volunteers before that place shut down.

Nice thing about 23 is my last three brain cells capable of processing if I fit in have fried. They can criticize and all I can say is who are you people and where is my horse.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

I think it's because you always feel like yourself. But if I could meet myself from 4 years ago I'd probably seem like a totally different person.

I wish I had more fun in college. All I did was study and hang out in the LAW library.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

I don't give myself enough credit for how young I actually am.

Still though, gotta make the leap. Life never happens tomorrow. I'm renting out a storage locker and turning it up to 11.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack


Bonus points if we rappell in from the ceiling.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

Toronto, and likely live in a dumpster until I secure a job ripping off old people in finance. I also do embedded programming 'n' shizz.

My passion is music.

nil  ·  2 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

Yeah, I never really compared myself to my friends because my posse were the art kids. It's where I went to escape all the competitiveness. You can kind of straddle the line while brutalizing yourself with Calculus IV or whatever.

I just don't want them to give up. My biggest fear is my best friend quits touring and checks out. Then I'm legally obligated to become the next Nickelback.

nil  ·  3 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 371st Weekly "Share Some Music You've Been Into Lately"

nil  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The moral implications of luck in human life

    You wake up, morally speaking, midflight.

cues Time by Pink Floyd

How di... how did I get here?

edit: I will add I once pointed out that arguing we should have "equality of opportunity, not equality of outcome," implies equality of opportunity has ever existed. It doesn't even exist in adulthood.

nil  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lambda School’s Misleading Promises

I would say this. A service like Lambda is a good idea because society is an institutional prison BUT.

The primary issue with Lambda school is a) the cost, and b) the income share agreements. The two primary things which make a college education suck is a) lack of opportunities, and b) cost (debt).

So you pitch a brand new service that costs twice as much, puts you in debt (I'm sorry, the ISA is debt, whether you like it or not), and gives questionable signalling value once you graduate (presuming your skills are equivalent - something that hasn't been demonstrated). That is a flop waiting to happen.

The way this should work is, make it two years instead of 16-months, include a co-op term WHILE you're completing the diploma. And fuck right off with that ISA bullshit. But at that point you just started a community college and we're back to square 1. Here in Soviet Russia where I live? You can get a full undergrad degree for like $25k.

ALSO as a marketing aside, drop the "school" part of the name. Just call it Lambda. That makes it sound OFFICIAL.

nil  ·  6 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are the best and the worst ever Beatles Songs?



Both from Revolver.