What would you like to see in your or other users profiles? Do you ever click on a users profile? If so, why? Do you have a bio written or an image embedded? What would you like to know about other hubskiers when checking out their profiles etc.
Just curious.
I often look at profiles to see the bio section and I like when people link to their own blogs etc.
Profiles -how could they be better?
This is a question for me totally because I'm always clicking profiles if I like a post or if someone new follows me. Why? Because we are interested in one another and I want to see you: to go from page to stage, so to speak. The downside is that labels like gender, age, ethnicity, (whatever that is), education and all others let other people put us into face-to-face boxes which are reductionist and out of our control. -- that is, I can't control the associations that a reader might have if I write "meditator" -- some people will think "new-age flake" and others will think "centred, calm" or whatever. That's my guess as to why so many profiles are blank. People think, "the community will find out about me by what I share/write. My ideas are more important than my labels." So to answer your question: what would I like to know? Everything - I want to know age and gender and whether you keep bees or not. Single, partnered, or or a practitioner of concurrent monogamy. Kids? Parents still alive? Grandparents? And birth order -- are you the oldest of three? youngest of seven? if you don't want me to know - at least tell me where you are. (And how you got there? and why? and how long?) But most likely, I will have to wait until label/identifiers come up in the context of a conversation and safer, mutual, self-disclosure -- the way one normally gets to learn about people. This calls for a poem by Theodore Roethke: The Waking I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I feel my fate in what I cannot fear.
I learn by going where I have to go.
We think by feeling. What is there to know?
I hear my being dance from ear to ear.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
Of those so close beside me, which are you?
God bless the Ground! I shall walk softly there,
And learn by going where I have to go.
Light takes the Tree; but who can tell us how?
The lowly worm climbs up a winding stair;
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
Great Nature has another thing to do
To you and me; so take the lively air,
And, lovely, learn by going where to go.
This shaking keeps me steady. I should know.
What falls away is always. And is near.
I wake to sleep, and take my waking slow.
I learn by going where I have to go.
Two spaces before a line breaks formatting: I am on a train. In my car
There is a young family
With a litter of children.
I am not calling the mother
A bitch, though she snaps
At her whining young.
Poor dad. Patience is not
A currency: his coffee cup empty
As he panhandles for peace.
That's the perspective of the narrator having to share his train car. Here it is from a different perspective: We are on a train. The kids
and some guy over there
scribbling in his notebook
and the baby daddy -
I am not calling him
A good-fer-nothing layabout
though he rolls his eyes at me
as I try to get the kids seated.
Poor me. Wisdom is not
My currency: I am running out
Of patience.
And longing for peace.
Thanks, I agree that there is some room to make the "interested in" a bit more informative and perhaps that is the way to do it. by the way, are you in on the Hubski word game? http://hubski.com/pub?id=95257 Because, you should get credit for the use of "missive" on your site.
Am I the only one playing? Am I the only one laden with the vessel of responsibility for keeping the game going? Am I misunderstanding the rules? Here I am worrying about so many things, not to mention my facial scrub - who knew those little beads of worry injected into facial scrub were plastic. The little exfoliating plastic beads in your facial wash and hand soaps are finding their way into the Great Lakes, and possibly into fish, a study has found.
I always thought they were made of apricots.
I wish! Unfortunately, I'm not allowed to mention that it's for the game in the comment or post or it's invalid. DOH!
http://www.amazon.com/Booginhead-PaciGrip-Pacifier-Holder-Pi... buy them a few of these if they are using a pacifier, no one gives them, bu they are fantasticaly useful. Don't discount booze as a gift, I would have loved if someone had given me a bottle of booze. Make them an easy assemble or reheat dinner if no one has set up this kind of service for then.
not sure about a kitchen store. a well-turned department store perhaps. http://www.ebay.com/itm/ThriftCHI-Bunnykins-Royal-Doulton-Ce... for $20 you can get the classic mug and bowl on ebay. That's pretty amazing. I paid around $$80 last time I bought this pair for a new baby.
Depends on the parents, a nice bottle of Champagne is great. Consider she's not been able to imbibe for some time. Conceivably, she can now. I know that with breastfeeding some women still won't touch it, but she can. Also depends on how much $ you want to spend. Gift certificate to their favorite restaurant with a promise to babysit? Spa for the mother. One really cool gift we got was from my cousin Samantha. She gave us a mixed CD of songs ideal for a baby/child that weren't "kids songs" but were soothing. Where the Sidewalk Ends? What are their interests? She plays guitar? Get the baby a mini-guitar. He's a writer? Monogrammed writing-paper with the baby's initials. Actually, baby's initials on anything is usually a big hit. Shows you put some time/thought in to it. Hope this was helpful.
Yeah, for sure, thanks! I don't really know what actuaries are into though. Math? I guess I could go with booze and make a brown bag puppet or something. Kid's like, 10 days old though. I don't even know if they can smile at that age. Oh well, good things to think about.
Kid's like, 10 days old though. I don't even know if they can smile at that age. Oh well, good things to think about.
-Not really. If they do smile, it's coincidental and usually involves passing gas. -Actuary? Get him the kids version of "Risk" or an monogrammed abacus :)
One less thing to think about. -that's actually a very thoughtful idea.Don't discount booze as a gift, I would have loved if someone had given me a bottle of booze. Make them an easy assemble or reheat dinner if no one has set up this kind of service for then.
this is good advice from cgod. I know I mentioned champagne, but booze too. Also, most people don't have their meals set up and it's nice to have that.
We definitely had help, don't get me wrong. It just wasn't planned. mk and gq came by with food as I recall. cW dropped off a basket of goodies too. But it was all pretty haphazard, with no real structure. It all worked out well though. I could see how having a plan might be a good idea. We took it all in stride. It was a fantastic time in my life. Probably the best.
One thing I really like about this website in general are the profiles. The little graphs are dope. The simplicity of the profiles is also something I really enjoy. I honestly can't think of much else I'd like to see, but I saw this post and just wanted to give you a heads up that the profiles are one of the features I really like.
That's great to hear, thanks. They've certainly come a long way. If you think of anything, ever, that you'd like to see different, let me know but it's nice to hear you've enjoyed them. Do you use them to sort of vet other users as to whether or not you'd like to follow them?
Yeah, I'll often creep on somebody's profile like a pre-teen girl hooked on Facebook just to see what they're into, what their bio says, and what they've been sharing/posting. It's kind of like looking at someone's online dating profile or something, to see if our interests might be compatible.
To that end, is there anything else that would help you know better whether you want to follow that person? I have often thought that if sites like Match and E-Harmoney can pair people up for life, we can certainly do a better job of pairing people up to share information and conversation.
Damn, that's a good question. When it comes to web design I'm totally shit for brains. But I think something that might be neat (along the lines of humanodon's suggestion of expanding the 'interested in:' section) would maybe be if that was clickable (similar to how posts/shares are). Then you could see every tag the user has been active in (either sharing or posting), and how often or how much they've been active in each one over the course of time. I like the 'interested in:' section as it is but if you could click to expand it, it might give someone a better idea of what the other person is all about.
It seems to me that this is what the "bio" section is for. You can tell people there what it is you are interested in. mk is right that what we think we are interested in and what we actually share on Hubski can be quite different. Mine is pretty accurate given what I've shared of late: #askhubski
#storyclub
#hubski
#music
#politics
I like that idea. You should run with that. Use the community tag option. My guess is that there are no shortage of posts where that could be appropriate. Even so, the tangential conversations are often just as interesting.
Maybe the topic of the tangent would be more useful (see #babygifts), rather than the fact that there is a tangent, especially if it's info someone might want later. I use hubski-generated ideas later in various ways and have often tried to find something -- but if it was a tangential conversation in the middle of another topic -- that could be a problem. However the keyword find function [top right] usually does the job, but might take several tries.
Aha, so that's why this post is tagged with #babygifts! A useful idea, but somewhat confusing to those who aren't aware of its usage. Perhaps there needs to be another tag option alongside the community tag: a tangential tag, perhaps.
That's a great idea. I guess there is no way to stop people from going off on tangents. thenewgreen wrote somewhere that the tangents are one of the things he likes about hubski because they lead to new places - and often private conversations that become public.
I think it may have been cgod that either endorsed or opposed the idea of a IM ability on Hubski. When it was proposed, we thought better if having it but this sort of tangent shows the need for one, I suppose. It's likely that humanodon would have struck up a quick conversation with me independent of this thread about "baby gifts." But then he would have never known about those sweet duck-dishes.