He wanted a girl who could hang out like one of the guys, so he found some in places others might refuse to look. One of the happiest dudes I ever met.
This is a really cool point of view.
If I understand what you're saying (pronouns are nuts when talking about this sort of thing), girls in transition -- male-to-female -- tend to get hit on by guys with a trans fetish. This strikes me less as demoralizing and more as a sort of empowerment -- like, I still can get laid as a different gender? Testing the waters sort of thing. No idea, though.
I guess it's sort of objectification. However, it's also a bit delusional or unrealistic for these women to not see themselves as trans. It's part of them, and denying it just makes a thing out of it. I sympathize with them and get why they don't want to be hit on for that specific purpose, though.