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StephenBuckley  ·  4122 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: A Mother's 18-Point iPhone Contract to Her Son

That's a very capitalist way of looking at it, and if the kid has that understanding of the right to privacy, that's fine. Personally, I think that if someone thinks that something should be private and I don't have pressing and/or reasonable evidence that it should not be, then no matter who owns the medium, they should get some modicum of privacy. Granted, there's a lotta wiggle room in that sentence! And I would just like to emphasize that I'm a Non-parent. So obviously I'd argue the kid's side. It's the only side I've been on!





b_b  ·  4121 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've always found it abhorrent that children don't have any assumed right to privacy. Having a private life is kind of necessary to maintain your sanity. But adults are always the ones who make the rules, and so long as they don't have any kind of respect for minors the situation stays the same. No one chooses to be a child. Parents, however, often choose to be parents, but then they have the assumed right of dictating the life of their child. For those who have good parents, its not an issue. For those who don't, its like being born into prison for 18 years. Think on this: A child is the only person whom you can legally hit maliciously.

user-inactivated  ·  4122 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    and if the kid has that understanding of the right to privacy, that's fine.
If he doesn't he'll learn it from this, yeah? Most kids learn about privacy most directly through internet and cell phone use these days, I think.

I'm also a non-parent, thank god. But I would jump to the parents' side here (except the dumb blogging about it part...) because I've dealt with a lot of irresponsible kids. I think the lesson the kid will take from it is get a job as soon as physically possible (14 in the States, or earlier with hardship proof, I think) and escape the shackles he's been placed under. This makes sense to me, and I think it's a great way to parent. In her place, I probably wouldn't have written a contract; I would have discussed this with my kid and then trusted him to follow through. Getting his signature was a needlessly dramatic move.