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Let's see. Well I lost my virginity when I was 20 so there's that one. After that, when I discovered that girls liked me, I was sleeping with as many of them as I could. Just steam rolling that shit. I hurt a lot of people that way. It ended up being not fun at all. When I was 20, I didn't quite realize how much my own wants and desires could affect the people around me. When I learned to start caring more, I became a heck of a lot happier. I've come to realize that the sex thing was just a small part of the binge-era 20's. There were a few solid years there where the most important question of the day was 'what are you drinking tonight?'. I think it's something I HAD to go through in order to realize this and would never suggest that people live differently - for sure this type of lifestyle defines many a 20-year-old.

My only advice to glean from all of that for anyone listening is to try really really hard to nurture your internal self. Build your OWN character. As you get older and the friends disappear, and the scenery changes, the ONE thing that you will have to rely on is the person you've made yourself into. What kind of person do you want that to be?

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3312 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This really hit home with me, but not because laid pipe all around town, if you will. I've been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years. I've grown up Christian and was always told to reserve sex for marriage. So, being an obedient child, I never had sex. But then I got to thinking, why do we reserve sex for marriage? I believe because it's a symbol of our commitment to be with other person for the rest of our lives. So, shortly after my 20th birthday, my girlfriend and I gifted each other with our virginity. What struck me most about your post is that you are apologetic about having slept with so many women. To be honest, I've struggled with having sexual desires with other women. This has been mostly in part by how much sexuality is portrayed in everyday life (that and my coworkers are the horniest guys imaginable). I know that if I were to sleep with a bunch of women, I'd end up apologetic as well. But in this day and age, it's becoming harder and harder to resist.