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comment by BLOB_CASTLE

Considering I'm 20 now, I anticipate learning a lot from this thread.





lil  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hi there - btw, I followed your what makes you happy thread and it made me happy just seeing all the discussion and support. Here is what I really know that my 20-year-old self did not know: the restless longing continues all your life, and that's a good thing. Have goals, have projects, engage with the world as much as possible

    I want an Earth full of wonder and mystery
you wrote. Let that restless longing drive you. We think that we journey uphill to get to the top of the mountain -- but that's not it. We need a mountaintop in order to have a journey. The journey itself IS the destination, is your life... but I probably wouldn't have had a clue what I'm talking about when I was 20.
BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I was so encouraged by the response there, it really has turned my mentality around about a lot of things. This site in general has aided in my becoming more happy.

And that's something that I've heard so often but I don't think it's ever resonated so much to me as it just did. I posted this video in this thread and it follows the same train of thought. Like the title of the video, Growing is Forever. And I know that. I'm not sure what it is about myself that so often forgets this simple truth.

thefoundation  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I like the thought about endless longing. Throughout our lives we will be longing for all sorts of different things. My goal at age twenty is to find new hobbies and things I like that I can continue doing throughout my life. My end goal in life is to open a restaurant, own a few dogs, have a nice wife, and be happy. And as always, listen to music http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBDF04fQKtQ

lil  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks thefoundation - I wrote a little more about restless longing here - there's even a colour called restless longing.

What would you cook in your restaurant?

thefoundation  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well I'm not so sure yet, I'm a huge food-ophile and I love cooking almost everything. But I'd like it to be a small family run thing in a local community where I know everybody. Hopefully near the coast, so hints of seafood, hearty soups, rich home-made flavors with fresh food. It's my endless dream.

I like that color also, teal is my favorite, and that reminds me of seafoam green, which reminds me of the ocean, which reminds me of longing and wonder. Haha it all fits!

Discord  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Also why I checked in. I'm only 22, but man since I was 20 I would consider myself so much less stupid. The biggest thing I think for me is trying to understand myself so I can tailor my life to fit me. It also helps to identify your problems, with everything from your day to day routine to interactions with others. Then work towards correcting them.

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem. I always associate that strictly with those who go to AA Meetings, but it's true in every aspect I suppose.

Raxyn13  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And now we wait...

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  
lil  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Um, Alex, uh, what is obsessive-compulsive?

BLOB_CASTLE  ·  3313 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That is correct for 500 points.