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LandGod  ·  4348 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Lil's Book of Questions: What's the Best Thing to Say to a Troubled Person?

I think this is really good advice. I'm very logical guy and so when people would come to me with a problem I would try to solve it. One of two things would always happen though, either the person would stop coming to me with their problems or I would become exasperated with them and stop wanting to listen to their problems.

Eventually I realized that no matter how good of a solution you have to someone's problem it's still totally unhelpful if they're not in a place where they can hear that.





lil  ·  4348 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Eventually I realized that no matter how good of a solution you have to someone's problem it's still totally unhelpful if they're not in a place where they can hear that.
Exactly. But they usually will want to hear your suggestion when they feel you really understand their problem. There's a good chance that your original solution will change when you understand their problem more deeply. Things are more complicated than they first seem and there's always a back story. Thanks for your comment.
LandGod  ·  4348 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I completely agree with you my good man (or woman, as the case may be)!

lil  ·  4348 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm post-gender. (You get to the point where you don't see people in terms of their containers anymore.) (ha ha just kidding)