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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  13 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: June 8, 2022

Sometimes you have to drop in the pub on the off-hours. Partner and I haven't been doing so great the last 6 months, more and more distant feeling both physically and emotionally in our relationship, with a lot of changes in what she's wanting to do with her free time. Not as much in the outdoors/climbing realm, and more time playing guitar, being artistic, and spending time with friends. Which I am more than supportive of, and have encouraged, but hasn't changed a lot within our relationship. The downside is it's resulted in us spending less time together as a couple, and with COVID being forever and ongoing, we haven't quite spent as much time doing other outside of the house date night type things, which I think has caused us to suffer romantically.

End result, she's moving out, and to an island, probably 90 minutes of travel one way, to live a life she's wanting for some time now. On land, on property, in a small home, more isolated from people and places, which is something she's talked about the entire time we've known each other. Which I'm genuinely excited for her about...not excited that it's happened over the course of 4 days, including (mostly) moving out. She wants to try and use this as a way to improve the parts of our relationship that have resulted in discontent and complacency, but at this point, I'm not sure how physical distancing can improve personality compatibility issues and if it's better to just end things...

lil  ·  12 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I just read your post bfx.


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