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elizabeth  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to confront someone for potato theft?

Yeah, that's the touchy part. The actual footage is not of very good quality. And there could be extenuating circumstances, where they might have thought they paid, or paid earlier. We found the beer undrank and unopened in the yard in the morning - it was the clue that led us to checking the video footage actually. The part where she puts her hand in the tip jar is really far away and you can't really tell what happens - just that she's taking instead of depositing something, and then puts something in her pocket. And banning a person for taking 2 potatoes ... eh (that we're actually gonna give away on Monday since we have many leftover and they would go to waste otherwise).

It's genuinely small potatoes, I'm not advocating for any repercussions yet . But just get the message across that we're onto her, and that this behaviour is not accepted at the space. If only because it's breaking the trust we have, it's a bad example to set to other members and it's unfair. No one is above the rules.

We're threading lightly, since an accusation is not retractable. But a common strategy of petty thiefs is also gaslighting... And tolerating shitty behaviours from people that "contribute" a lot in other ways, or have a certain status is what creates a toxic kind of community.

psychoticmilkman  ·  64 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    We found the beer undrank and unopened in the yard in the morning

So interesting that they took the potatoes and left the beer.