What I am getting from this conversation is that maybe it is more honest and accurate if some people or their behaviors, are described as "unwilling" rather than "lazy." That is, there are some people who will not wash their dishes until they do not have a clean one left -- regardless of a lack of barriers in their way.

What I have personally observed is that people are frequently unwilling to be so honest with themselves. In a case where a person is truly unwilling to do the needed task at hand, it is generally easier for them to dismiss their lack of action as "laziness" -- and more socially acceptable -- than admit they just truly do not care enough to clean up after themselves until it reaches a crisis point. And so long as they are living with someone else, typically their laziness or unwillingness to act until absolutely necessary means that the burden falls on the party who is willing to acknowledge a problem and act to solve it before it becomes an overwhelming issue.

I am all for honesty. I prefer people who are truthful about what they are going to do (or not) over people who lie to me any day.

However I have noticed that often, those who are willing to lie to me about their desire or ability to complete necessary actions -- let's say chores, or staying at home and sheltering in place during the time of CORONAVIRUS even when their friends are not -- in the moment that they make the lie to me, they are also making the lie to themselves. In fact, such a person may become offended when you calmly state your perceived truth, which may be that "you have promised me you would do X multiple times over an extended period and it has never happened." No amount of documentation will help you get this person to accept certain facts in these scenarios.

The most dangerous person to be in a relationship with, to me, is a person who lies to themselves. A person who is unwilling to confront their truths to their self will never be able to tell the truth to someone else as a result.

And those are the people that will deny their lies to the end.

I guess what I'm saying is, yeah, saying "I'm lazy" is self destructive, but there are a lot of people out there who are way more comfortable with telling themselves the lies they want to believe about themselves than actually, you know...paying attention to the metrics that align to whatever behavior they say they don't do.

Some people want to believe they are lazy because it allows them to avoid the fact that they are dead weight.

This article, and any number of ones like it, is never going to change them.