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oyster  ·  1495 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Holy wack

Back during college round 2 I was sitting in a coffee shop and overheard a guy who was just finishing school say something alone the lines of “ I’ve done everything I was supposed to do, I’ve worked so hard to get to where I am, but like where am I ?”

Anyways, I got the fuck out of my hometown so although I still might not know where I am it’s not the same place forever. Where are you gonna go ?



kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That feeling has been very real for me. There's a lot going into that emotion, and I think none of it would sound new to the bulk of our cohorts here. You spend 16 years striving to earn a degree (in my household, anyway, 1st grade was a service done to the years following). Feels weird to see it transform from a moral inheritance from my parents to an 8'x11' piece of paper - it goes from your life's work to something passive and dull so quickly.

I'm getting used to the feeling, though. I doubt it ever goes away, seems like one of those things you just learn how to tolerate.

    Out of the blue, beyond any cause you can trace, you'll suddenly realize things are not how you perceived them to be at all. For some reason, you will no longer be the person you believed you once were. You'll detect slow and subtle shifts going on all around you, more importantly shifts in you. Worse, you'll realize it's always been shifting, like a shimmer of sorts, a vast shimmer, only dark like a room. But you won't understand why or how.

(sparkle sparkle)

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NevaMor  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It is more about the journey than the destination and all those you meet along the way. The degree / promotion / new job / [achievement] you achieve marks an end to a chapter but doesn't take away your story on how you got there. For each new chapter, accept that it may not end the way you intend. Just take some time to enjoy the road along the way. Life sometimes gives you shit (and a lot of it at times) but life will pleasantly surprise you if you keep your heart and mind open. Change is inevitable so be the change you wish to be and accept change you cannot control. Shimmering can be a good time to reflect.

At least that's how I have come to terms with that feeling. I apologize if this comes off like a bad self help book, but this is something I have though a lot about when reflecting on my own life.

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Sometimes the advice in bad self help books makes its way onto a page because it's good. For the record, you didn't come off that way.

Let's compare my life to a car - right now, the deceleration as the transition kicks me up a gear is discomforting. I'll start cruising again soon, though! In the meantime, I'll use this shimmer for self-reflection as you suggest. Thanks for the wise words :)

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OftenBen  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That feeling gets worse when you think you find your 'thing' or 'place' and it is taken from you.

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

ah look at me, vaguely gesturing at mudsy from four months ago with none of my college friends, a freshly broken leg, and a new ex girlfriend

shit sucks. hoping that my ability to cope with it gets better with time. i have this mental ideal of a version of myself who contains every 'thing' or 'place' that could ever be mine, a fortress of meaning self-defined and self-derived and immune to the feeling of loss we're talking about.

it's a nice thought, but i think that would be a sad way to be

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oyster  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Looking back now I realized I had just turned 23 when I started applying for jobs in Banff. I guess it’s just that age when everybody is finishing school or watching other people finish school and wondering wtf is next. Good luck in Toronto, but might as well start applying for jobs before you get there.

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yo do you like heist movies? I don't, but we should rob some shitty museum of their diamonds anyway

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kleinbl00  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Some Twitter personality or other commented that Michael Bloomberg makes more in interest than Ocean's 11 made in stolen goods every day.

I have no idea if it's true or not but maaan

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goobster  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

nil this is an excellent point and exactly why we need to steal whatever Bloomberg's got in his vaults

hey klein are you any good with an acetylene torch?

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kleinbl00  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Pretty damn good, actually, although Bloomberg's billions aren't in a vault, they're in everyone else's economic well-being.

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Then we're on a mission to steal the american middle-class. I'm fucking ready

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

lol twenty years ago we'd be fucked, but nowadays yeah your 10'x10' might do

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kingmudsy  ·  1494 days ago  ·  link  ·  

s'allowed, but only if we use a grappling hook at some point

and a glass cutter. one of those big circular ones

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