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user-inactivated  ·  510 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why are Young People Having so Little Sex?

1. They live at home.

2. They have roommates/shared living spaces.

3. They are working 2-3 jobs.

HGL  ·  509 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Living with people really makes it hard for unattractive people to hook up. If you live alone nobody is going to judge you for your choices, if you have room mates you have a lot of pressure to conform to social norms of partner choice. Definitely would be a contributing factor

Foveaux  ·  510 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Are shared living spaces where people share a bedroom, or just sharing a house? I've seen in movies, American dorms etc where people are sleeping in the same bedroom and that always weirded me out. Having to have times you could be there so someone else could get their freak on just seemed odd.

user-inactivated  ·  509 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The last house I shared with roommates had myself and four other people. The bedroom was just big enough for a bed, desk, dresser and an office chair. We all go along, but that many people in a shared space and you are always tripping over each other and all up in each other's business due to the confines of the house.

Kinda hard to get romantic with a partner of choice when there are four other people watching your every move and judging the new stranger now in the house. People I know have then had the issue where bringing a new person around, even if just a night or two a week changes the dynamic in the living space. If you have a good place and decent roommates, most people will not want to disturb that, especially if rent is outrageous and/or finding a new apartment/room/house is difficult.

I'd lean more onto the 1.7 trillion dollar Student Loan problem combined with the massive out of control housing costs in the areas people want to live in. Add in working long hours/multiple jobs as a consequence and you also explain why people under 30 are not joining professional societies and hobby organizations as much as their parents did. (And not joining and taking part in those activities limits contact with new people, reducing potential romantic partners) Work 70 hours a week and you won't have the energy to do much else.

Foveaux  ·  509 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Interesting - I haven't encountered that kind of issue when living with people and bringing someone else home. Or if the issue was there, I was entirely oblivious to it. I've been exceedingly lucky with my flatmates over the years.

You paint a scary picture and I don't doubt it's real - I'm just glad it's not happening to me at the moment!

user-inactivated  ·  508 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Poverty is a hell of a mind fuck. Not recommended.

illu45  ·  510 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Usually just shared common areas (kitchen, living room etc.) although the walls between bedrooms aren't usually very thick.

Foveaux  ·  510 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ah that's not too bad then. Thin walls are no surprise though. Had to deal with that in my youth too!