Not only am I not getting any shout-outs, I am not getting an announcement that you replied to my comment. Didn't we used to get these? All my alerts are ON. I just happened to check this and found your reply. Lucky me.
As for which came first -- of course everyone is different. I suspect, though, that we begin feeling and speaking. Gradually we learn that speaking the truth of our feelings can go badly. First we stop speaking the truth of our feelings. Then we stop naming and understanding our feelings. We don't stop feeling -- but we don't have easy direct access to our feelings, as you say in the song - because of the scar tissue.
Interesting thing about scar tissue as a metaphor: If there is internal scar tissue - as a result of surgery, say. The scar tissue might rub against a nearby organ or tissue. If the scar tissue rubs long enough, it creates an adhesion to whatever it is rubbing against. Metaphorically and biologically, the scars want to heal and connect.
The adhesion though causes other serious problems.
as for NYC, if you are there in November or December, let me know. I have a friend who has invited me to stay ANYTIME in her apartment in Manhattan between the Empire State Building and Grand Central.