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goobster  ·  141 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 29, 2018

Reasons vary. But the pattern - elimination of the spouse from activities, self-aggrandizement, increased activity, then the split - is the same.

It makes sense, when you think about it.




ButterflyEffect  ·  141 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hmm. There has to be a reason leading into the first part of that pattern, right? This is interesting, because I see a lot of behavior in myself on a much shorter scale. But it's not elimination so much as inability to include from the get go.

goobster  ·  140 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, there is definitely other stuff going on ...

... the individual feeling like they aren't getting the appreciation/attention they deserve from their spouse, so they go fishing for compliments on social media...

... the individual feeling "trapped" in their relationship, so suddenly they are doing all kinds of Activities and Adventures (without their spouse)...

... the individual setting themselves up in people's minds as an individual and not part of a couple...

Etc.