From a fark comment on this piece of outrage bait that I fell for:
- There is an endless and inexhaustible market for Boomer-oriented journalism reassuring them that they should not feel any guilt for stealing from the future until there was nothing left for their own children.
So, let's dig in for a moment.
- In the age of “The Hangover” and “Bridesmaids,” over-the-top destination bachelor/bachelorette parties are becoming a common reality, and while they’re a total blast, they’re not exactly easy on your wallet.
This statement was posted on the web page of a legitimate news source. So now I have to know: how fucking out of touch is the author of this piece of shit?
Her linkedin is also public and the thing that stuck out to me is Brandeis University. So mommy and daddy have money. Probably political connections. This is a person who has never gone to bed hungry, never had poor friends growing up, probably private schools to do college prep. All the peers in her age group are upper level of society. Since she only "reports" on fashion, beauty and celebrity she never has contact with the shit the "real people" deal with. This is how you end up with the following paragraph:
- The study found that attending nine destination bachelorette parties in your lifetime can set you back upwards of $13,788. In other words, you could spend up to 35 percent of a down payment on a median-price home (in certain areas of the country) celebrating a friend’s nuptials. And that doesn’t even factor in other bridal party expenses. Geez, right?
Outside of this lady's friend group, who is going to nine fucking destination weddings? Who the fuck is spending that much money per? I've been in three weddings. Two of the weddings I was in as a witness, the ceremony was in a judges chambers' and about as fancy as paying off a parking ticket. Total cost of first two weddings? About $500 each and I bought dinner for the "wedding party" afterwards, so a grand total of under $1K for the whole wedding including blood tests, paperwork etc. These two couples are still together more than 25 years later. The "fancy wedding" that cost me $300 in suit rental and gifts? Divorced. N=3 but the reality is that the more you spend on a wedding the more likely you will get divorced Furthermore, and this is what triggered me to be pissed the fuck off, is that the marriage rate is falling, hard, mostly due to most 'normal' people dealing with 40 years of flat wages, rising health care costs, and a housing market that is out of phase with the reality of people's incomes. People are not having kids fast enough because they are not making money in jobs that treat them as a temporary blip on a financial chart. There is a deep sense of "this job is temporary until they outsource it" for a big chunk of this demographic. Meanwhile, this lady has never worked two jobs to pay for the basics of living life while living in a shitty one room apartment with second hand furniture. Ever.
And seriously. Just from an old fucking asshole in the midst of BanjoStan? You are 30, or close to it. The cutesy crap invalidates everything you are trying to shame people into doing. The "Like, OMG" styling in the article made me write this out and it get fully pissed off over the infantalization of adults. Millennials are in the 20-40 age range. They are not kids any more, even though I am guilty of calling them that every so often. These groups of people without trust funds and wealthy parents are smart enough and connected enough that they realize they and their peer groups are fucked. The median age out here in the sticks is lowering as more "Millennial" aged people are moving back off the coasts and bigger metros because they can afford to live out here and have a life outside of working 70+ hours a week.
If I had not dug into the article's author, I would have assumed this was written by someone in my age range to make fun of the damn kids not buying houses to increase his property values.
Oh, one final thought. The original article, the study on what these weddings cost? The article four fucking links in says no such thing
- With wedding gifts, travel and attire, it's no surprise that being a wedding guest can be one expensive honor—but just how expensive? For The Knot 2016 Wedding Guest Study, we surveyed over 1,000 people who've been a guest or attendant at a wedding in the past three years, and the findings are eye-opening. We found that the average guest spends $118 on the wedding gift, and wedding attendants are spending even more at $177, on average. (But remember, this number is an average, which means depending on where you're attending each wedding, your spend could be higher or lower.)
The Zillow article that is the source of the destination party numbers interprets the max spent, compares it to buying a house in a very inexpensive market and boom, you get drivel like this fucking article.