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kleinbl00  ·  239 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Fifty Shades and the secret compromises of women

    I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman.

    And the author ignore the fact, that submissive male are common.. and usually are very powerful people, also very directive on the pain/humiliation they want.

My experiences on the fringe of the BDSM community does not support your suppositions, nor does what little data there is.




ooli  ·  238 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I still think the article fall apart if you acknowledge that submissive male exist.

I don't see your data, the abstract say nothing about submission proportion in male and female.. but the :

    2.2% of men, 1.3% of women said they had been involved in BDSM

make it feel that female are under-reporting (almost half as much) about the subject than male.

At least the article is right about something: people lie about their sexuality.

kleinbl00  ·  238 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The article isn't about men. It's about women. It's one columnist's insight into why women might buy a book that's ostensibly about BDSM.

I do think it's interesting that even when presented with data, your inclination is to dismiss the entire article because you've decided it doesn't support a tangential hunch of yours.