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ooli  ·  212 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Fifty Shades and the secret compromises of women

The author seems to not little about BDSM.

I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman. They actually control the interaction and the amount of humiliation/pain they desire. The "master" is just a tool.

And the author ignore the fact, that submissive male are common.. and usually are very powerful people, also very directive on the pain/humiliation they want.

  
The fact that 50 shades, apparently a bad depiction of BDSM, got so much success, might actually mean something. But I wont trust the author with analyzing it.

For once I seems to know something Klein ignore! Onan was a biblical character, very alone.. and Candaulism come from the King Candaules who liked to have his wife taken before his eyes




oyster  ·  211 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman.

I mean sure sometimes but no that’s not the whole story. Take into consideration how many women bought this book and understand that many borrowed it from a library or didn’t bother because they already figured out where to find better smut on the internet for free... you think that many very powerful women exist ?

It’s all significantly more complicated than that and women likely have varying reasons for taking pleasure in anything related to BDSM considering it’s a pretty wide genre and everybody has different limits.

kleinbl00  ·  212 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I dont know much... but I know it's a kink of very powerful woman.

    And the author ignore the fact, that submissive male are common.. and usually are very powerful people, also very directive on the pain/humiliation they want.

My experiences on the fringe of the BDSM community does not support your suppositions, nor does what little data there is.

ooli  ·  212 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I still think the article fall apart if you acknowledge that submissive male exist.

I don't see your data, the abstract say nothing about submission proportion in male and female.. but the :

    2.2% of men, 1.3% of women said they had been involved in BDSM

make it feel that female are under-reporting (almost half as much) about the subject than male.

At least the article is right about something: people lie about their sexuality.

kleinbl00  ·  211 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The article isn't about men. It's about women. It's one columnist's insight into why women might buy a book that's ostensibly about BDSM.

I do think it's interesting that even when presented with data, your inclination is to dismiss the entire article because you've decided it doesn't support a tangential hunch of yours.