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_refugee_  ·  515 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Why American men are getting less marriageable

Also, correction: Jess made more than me. However, Jess also had a huge complex about wanting to portray essentially a "charles in charge" persona all the time. If you may remember. Jess was not about dating equals.

I think they've gotten input from society at large. Male and female. From their moms and dads as well as their dating partners. From TV shows as well as cute girls flirting at the bar. It's everywhere. Women didn't create it, neither did men, it evolved over time due to whateverwhateverwhatever, white male dominance, and it's irresponsible to ignore the whole picture of that.

And I'll admit: when you're using to making more than the people you date, and suddenly that switches, it is different. There is a bit of a mental shift. But it's easy enough to come around and shift instead of making a stink about it.

OftenBen  ·  515 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    But it's easy enough to come around and shift instead of making a stink about it.

That was your experience. Some may find that more difficult and I'm not certain that's some kind of moral failing.

_refugee_  ·  515 days ago  ·  link  ·  

a) i updated

b) yes of course it was my experience. i thought as i wrote that sentence that, as a confessed bisexual, i probably have more flexible views on gender roles in relationships than the average bear does. i'm aware. clearly i need someone else who feels the same way as i do about that in a relationship

OftenBen  ·  515 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's great self awareness.