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goobster  ·  2446 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What do you do when you feel stagnant?

For me, stagnation is usually a sign I am avoiding something.

Life is naturally full and busy.

Generally speaking, if you aren't busy, then you are avoiding something. In denial.

Oddly enough, I have found the solution is to make space. Make time just for me. Go calm. Quiet. And wait. Once the noise dies down, and I am not full of "busyness", clarity usually comes pretty quickly.





Isherwood  ·  2446 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah, I think I'm scared of something. There's this idea of jobs that do and don't "make a living". I think I like the idea of some of the work in the latter category but it seems scary to pursue. I'll have to stew on that one.

johnnyFive  ·  2445 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What helped me a lot (and first let me wholeheartedly second what goobster said) was realizing, as cliche as it is, that I'm not my job. Because even though I understood that on some level intellectually, I hadn't really internalized it enough. So now, a lawyer is something I happen to be doing to get paid while I do what's really important. If someone asks me what I do, my first answer is that I teach kung fu, even though that's not something I devote 40 hours a week to (yet!). Because that's more what my life is focused on.

In other words, you don't have to choose between your two types of jobs.