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user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Men won't volunteer to help the Scouts for one depressing reason: they'll be labelled paedophiles

    As the article mentions, it affects more than just the Boy Scouts.

Here is the thing that nobody really talk about; The culture these things create.

If there is ever a question, the kid's words are taken at face value with no doubt. Then self preservation kicks in and you as the adult are screwed; they will sacrifice you to save face and there is nothing you can do about it and zero legal recourse. One mom who was off her mood drugs making an accusation and your career is over. (An online friend of mine had this happen to him, he was 100% innocent of all the accusations and even home with his wife when one the 'incidents' took place. He fucked-the-hell-out of teaching to build houses)

Men are warning other men to not go into teaching and it is hurting our kids and our society. Then you get articles like this one trying to get more men into teaching and child care

And then you get shit like this

    He told the newspaper: "I would certainly advocate that no man qualify as a teacher. It is just not worth it. What is the lesson here? There is nothing to protect the male teacher."

The kids who need these services? The kids who desperately need a Big Brother/Big Sister style service? Nobody gives a fuck. They (the kids) don't vote, they don't write checks and maybe once a year or so there will be a one hour conversation in the media when some of these kids are murdered. You then get the same people with stern looks and somber tones who start asking why these kids are dead only to get distracted by celebrity bullshit before the end of the news cycle. The consequences will barely be facebook "Share for a prayer" nonsense until we all change our filters to the flag of the next country that has a terror attack. The Big Brother program out here is seriously hurting because of the fears of litigation bumped their insurance and legal liability rates through the roof and they are struggling to get volunteers that want to go through the insane background check. I used to volunteer to play video games with the kids in the cancer ward. I don't now. They got a new volunteer coordinator and after a few conversations with her I no longer felt my personal safety and integrity were being protected. So fuck the kids with cancer, right?

Great. Now I sound like a fedora wearing neckbeard. And I used the time needed to prep for teaching two astronomy classes tonight for internet posting.





kleinbl00  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    One mom who was off her mood drugs making an accusation and your career is over.

Can confirm. Good friend had to give up a career in christian camps because a 13-year-old boy decided it'd be fun to skunk his life. THE KID EVEN RECANTED and he still lost his job and couldn't get rehired anywhere, even out of state. He's a thousand miles away working the physical plant now.

Other friend is the daughter of the middle school science teachers. Couple of my sister's classmates decided they didn't like the mom so they made allegations against the dad because they knew it would stick and maybe they could get 'em both to leave. 18-month investigation, total recantation, early retirement.

I have had women come up to question me

at parks

standing next to a stroller

while I watch my daughter play

because if you're male and anywhere near small children, you're a pedophile.

Stop being an alpha male! Participate in your kids' lives! Take them to the park! Get the stinkeye from every paranoid mother there because what's wrong with you, participating in your kid's life YOU FUCKING PERVERT.

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You obviously need to go to lift more and learn to hold frame, brah.

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Basically, if I decide to have a family, I don't go living in the US, 'cause no chance in hell I can spend time with my kid outside?

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not so much. Depends on where you go and what you do. Just like any other large group of people. the fear of litigation is more of a driving force than anything else really.

Devac  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Great. Now I sound like a fedora wearing neckbeard.

Nowhere in the post did you mention:

- being friend-zoned,

- an unfair stigma of living in your parents' basement,

- Catholics and religion being the source of all that is evil,

- Games Workshop's shitty pricing.

You're at worst at the Fedora Ergosphere.

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    - an unfair stigma of living in your parents' basement,

I live in my OWN basement, motherfucker :) (saves me a ton of money on heating and cooling and helps keep the top of the house clean and presentable)

Devac  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No need to explain, really. I lived in the attic at my parents home because what was originally meant to be my actual room is the hottest place in the house during summer and a fucking walk-in freezer during the winter. The basement became my mother's study because that's the only room in the house where she can store all of her medical stuff in a way that's readily available.

kleinbl00  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

am_Unition  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Keep watching your local news, everyone, where a large percentage of the featured men are mugshots of those that have committed sexual crimes.

paywalls on the adelaidenow.com.au links, FYI

user-inactivated  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Huh. I wonder if they are noticing incoming links and popping up the paywall. Was not there from Google.

am_Unition  ·  2524 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Whenever a paywalled article sees you incoming from a google URL, they'll let you through. I guess they presume the link was served up in a google ad. Its happened to me here multiple times in the last year.