https://www.amazon.ca/Running-Empty-Overcome-Childhood-Emotional/dp/161448242X I should elaborate more on this. I found this book very helpful in overcoming some of my own issues and I'm pretty sure you would find it helpful too. My parents taught me very little and I'm honestly thankful for that. When my mom tried to teach me how to tie my shoes it started with her freaking out that I didn't know how to already and then angrily showing me how in a hurry. That memory is burned into my brain and if they tried to teach me more I would probably be more fucked up. That's not too say they didn't get it right a few times but that doesn't really make up for the rest.
Thanks for the recommendation. Not sure if I'll be able to buy it soon enough: dealing with Amazon in Russia may be problematic. That's the essence of it. There's a saying in Russia: "Even a stick shoots once in a year". It's still a stick, not a rifle. What you and I went through, no kid ever should. Still, Nietzsche was right: "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger". Resilience gained afterwards is a virtue for the whole life.That's not too say they didn't get it right a few times but that doesn't really make up for the rest.
I'll second the recommendation of that book. It's wonderful. Side note: what would that phrase be in Russian?