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comment by kleinbl00
kleinbl00  ·  2864 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 25, 2016

At a certain age and in a certain romantic paradigm, such problems can also be caused by one party thinking the other party has spurned their advances. That the advancing party lacks the competence or confidence to make such advances clear and unequivocal rarely plays into it. It was bad when I was in my early '20s but having interacted with "you kids" via forums such as these over the past 20 years, I can say with no hesitation that the game has changed faster than the players can adapt.

It happens. Someone's got a crush that they can't work up the nerve to tell so instead they go silent and pissy because their shyness morphs into antagonism. Dunno that's what's going on here, but it wouldn't be the first time.