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Devac  ·  2897 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dear hubski, what do you look back on as your proudest moment in life?  ·  

I was given an opportunity to start high school at thirteen, pretty uncommon in my country. Despite what my family was telling me, that I should stay where I am, I went with it. It took me almost two weeks to get all the pros and cons straight, but it was my most adult decision pretty much up to this point in life.

It was hard. To be honest, it is still hard. People often assume that such a small difference in age should not affect anyone or go to the other end of the spectrum; assume that this is just a kid who does not know any better. Despite the fact that I was lacking a lot in cynical aspects of my decision back then, I would still do it the same if I was given some time travel way to do it all again.

Another aspect is the fact that I am pretty much financially independent and my eighteenth birthday is about two months from now. I get my scholarship, my parents still send me some money but I have never gone above my own 'earnings'. It's a bit of a buffer, but I would consider it as my failing if I were to ever use their resources. That makes my expenses very tight, but I don't mind it. I'm on my own due to two or three decisions that resulted from the first one. It's "unfair" in the way that I can count on them backing me up (and considering my expenses vs what they send me, I could probably live for next three semesters just on that), but even in such case; Some of the students I'm attending classes with call me kid despite having their parents cash in their wallets and eating food that they did not make themselves. It's hard, but I do consider my current state as both lucky and one that I can call a point of pride.

I hope that you will get kick-ass foster family soon :D. Keep your chin up and think of Hubski as… Delad glädje är dubbel glädje och delad sorg är halv sorg ;).



am_Unition  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So you're 17, and we're having conversations about grad-level physics texts (I'm still working on a reply). Wow, dude. You're a prodigy, and maybe you're sick of hearing the term, but that's the reality.

Edit: obligatory congratulations :)

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Devac  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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am_Unition  ·  2894 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think in the end it's going to be me that ends up learning more from you. :)

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Devac  ·  2894 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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user-inactivated  ·  2897 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Some of the students I'm attending classes with call me kid despite having their parents cash in their wallets and eating food that they did not make themselves.

I've been there. It'll pay off in the long run, and probably in the short run too.

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Devac  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks. It's already paying off, mainly because I went to the dorm knowing only how to make grilled cheese and pizza, by skill to skill comparison I'm already feeling like much less obnoxious/shouty Gordon Ramsey. Next year I hope to get that much better.

In your experience, what's the benefit in the long run? I'm banking on self-reliance and not being suddenly completely baffled how expensive everything is ;).

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user-inactivated  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    In your experience, what's the benefit in the long run?

I mean, what's not? You'll value every single good thing that happens to you that much more, forever.

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user-inactivated  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I supported myself for a good chunk of college by parting fools and their parents' money. I definitely don't advise doing that, but it does give one perspective on what it means to live in a world run by people who had their place in it handed to them.

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Devac  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  
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user-inactivated  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

hope it was ransomware

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user-inactivated  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ransomware wasn't a thing yet, would have been too indiscriminate, and besides that no fun at all. You don't need much skill to pick a drunk fratboy's pocket, and you can find many drunk fratboys conveniently clustered together pretty much every weekend.

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swedishbadgergirl  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Är själv svensk och fyller 18 om 3 månader! Svubski REPRESENT! Eller så kan du bara svenska, eller är finlandssvensk eller...

I nominate Svubski as the name for Swedish Hubskiers anyway.

Also, I can relate to all the foodmaking and washing and cleaning and it is hard, but doing it yourself means independece on a deep level.

EDIT: saw that you were doing Swedish on duolingo, you go person! You fooled me, a person whoase spoken swedish since birth.

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Devac  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Great! How are you right now, if you don't mind me asking?

Thanks for language remark, I hope to visit my brother in Göteborg around September and would want to get to a better level than "Ursäkta mig, talar du engelska?" I was at the start of the semester. I don't know how it will go when time comes, but what would you say for a Hubski Svensk möte? ;) I'll most likely get some better details at the end of July.

Svubski does have a ring to it, bit shame that by your logic I'm Pluski :P.

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swedishbadgergirl  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm better mentally, and the "situation" is getting better. But I'm still in the mind wing of the hospital, and I don't have another place to go so it's just... A lot of waiting.

Also I'm watching eurovision tonight with the night personell so that's nice.

Pluski also sounds good.

I'm honestley not sure when I get released from the hospital and I don't think I will have the freedom to go and meet a "random" internet friend.

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Devac  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Best wishes and I hope you'll get from now to 'actually good' quickly. If you would want to join some real time talk instead of messages, remember that there is always Hubski IRC. Just don't get discouraged if no-one would answer, it's usually a good idea to wait for about an hour since talks commonly happen in bursts. I'm mainly saying that because people often go there, feel disappointed when after waiting for 20 seconds nobody responded and quit. It's not the worst place to hop in when bored :P.

And I guess that I should have known the answer about meeting. Perhaps another time? It is best left to be seen later anyway.

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swedishbadgergirl  ·  2895 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hopefully another time!

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