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goobster  ·  2891 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dear hubski, what would you like to say to your 17 year old self?

Seventeen was 31 years ago for me. Wow... that kinda takes my breath away as I write it...

Here's what I'd tell my 17 year old self:

1. You don't know shit. Keep your mouth mostly shut, and your ears wide open.

2. Yes. Yes, she does want to have sex with you, and yes you should accept. She's capable of making her own decisions, and it doesn't make you moral or righteous to question her decision or motives. (Anyway, you'll regret every time you didn't have sex, when you look back on it later on in life. Sex is good. Sex is life-affirming. And, most importantly, sex is fun.)

3. Slow down. Going faster than everybody else does not make you better than them, or more capable, or even a "winner". The winner is the one who enjoys BOTH the journey AND the destination.

4. Get distracted. Try shit out. The broader your life experiences, the better your life will be.

5. Be your word. If you say it, do it. Period. It's that simple. And that hard.

6. Deposit. Every single time you get paid for anything, put a little bit of it - even $20 - into an account that is not linked to your credit or debit card. Leave it there no matter what. Make the habit early. Your life later will be transformed in ways you cannot conceive of now.

7. Be Fun. Your brain is amazingly capable. If you aren't having fun, it's your own fault. So don't DO fun things, BE fun. Wherever you are. Find the humor in everything. It will help immensely.

8. Travel. There is no better way to become AMAZING, than to travel. Just make it happen. Say yes.

9. Stretch. Stay limber. It's easy now. It won't be later. But making it a simple habit will make your future SO MUCH BETTER.



swedishbadgergirl  ·  2885 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You are a person who gives good advice.

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goobster  ·  2883 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Why thank you!!

That's a lovely compliment.

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