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kingmudsy  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Dear hubski, what would you like to say to your 17 year old self?

I was seventeen two years ago, and I guess I would tell myself to not be afraid to ask for what I want.

I remember the uncertainty between whether or not I could afford to go to the school I wanted to go to, whether I should stay with my girlfriend at the time when we both moved away, whether I wanted to do Computer Science for the money, or pursue something I really loved and be a happy poor man...

If I would've just asked for what I wanted, I could be at a better school, but probably not. I might still be with my ex-girlfriend, but probably not (thank goodness). And I might be pursuing a pointless major because I liked learning about it, but probably not.

Things turned out the way they should've, and I'm happy now. Given the chance, I don't think that I would've done anything differently, but I spent so long feeling paralyzed with anxiety over those three decisions (and a plethora of smaller ones that feel utterly pointless nowadays), when I should've just felt comfortable doing what I wanted to do. The only difference in the two scenarios, I feel, is that I would've spent more time enjoying myself at that age, rather than freaking out over every little thing.

P.S. - Welcome back, swedishbadgergirl :)



swedishbadgergirl  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I feel this a lot. What i think I will say to myself in the future to the now is that things will be okay. Like, I'll survive.

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kingmudsy  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yes, definitely!

It seems like that's a common piece of advice, and I'd tend to agree with it: You might feel like you're going through a lot right now, and (without minimizing your issues, of course) one day you're going to look back on this part of your life and feel okay about it.

I'm really not that much older than you are, but I feel like everything has turned out okay. I couldn't have predicted how my life would be back when I was 17.The future is just as mysterious for me now as it was two years ago, but everything is going to be okay!

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swedishbadgergirl  ·  2896 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah.

Like things usually turn out suprisingly fine.

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